If in your Case ?

Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 9:06 pm

If your partner cheated on you a week Before Wedding . Are u gonna cancel the wedding. The halls are rented, invitation are out, everything is set. what would u do?

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Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 10:03 pm

I think it is left with the individual to decide either to cancel or continue with the Wedding. A man or woman in her rightful mind would cancel the wedding because mariage is not a joke, it is a lifelong thing and should bring fulfilment and joy and not bitterness. Secondly the incident before the wedding is an indication of the identity of that person and one should not think that after the wedding you will be able to change that person. To the expectant spouse I wil say call off the wedding, take a deep breath and continue yor life. That wedding is not all to life, there are other important things that can prepare you for a better partner than that one.

Tarr

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It is very difficult to decide what to do in this case, because there are few question to be answer to what is the rout cause to cheating on a partner few days before a wedding, this sound very mush like not being in your right mind

Average Poster Joined: May 06, 2004 Posts: 64

I will cut it off...No big deal.. I will find someone else...

Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 9:32 pm

cancelling a wedding for that reason is not easy. It is easier said than done. Yes if you go ahead with the wedding, it is very clear that he has the license to do it again. If you do not go ahead with the wedding, you never know the reason why it was done to begin with. It is better to postpone the wedding and take time off from your spouse to put your thoughts together. You will need to know the route of this behavior and see if you can find in your heart to forgive and forget and move on with the same person or forgive and gorget and go your separate ways. Do not make a hasty decision when you are angry, b'cuz you might not be able to go back and correct it later. the 1st error of your spouse to be has been done another one by your quick action / anger will not make it right. Be fast in your thinking and slow in being angry.
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Virgin Poster Joined: Sep 25, 2005 Posts: 6 Location: va

I understand that the American culture is great but damn we have taken it to the extreme. Cheating is not really a big deal once my man can prove that he loves me. i dont care if another woman wants to give it up especially for one night. nowadays we get so pressed by cheating men we leave them at the drop of a dime. but at the end of the day, we are gonna be the ones called whores because we change men cuz they cheat. men are dogs we just need to live with the idea. if ur man cheats, and he's really sorry forgive him its not gona peel the skin off ur body ladies.it gives the woman that he cheated with the upper hand to talk shit to u. Sad

Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 8:52 pm

Ansu wrote:

If your partner cheated on you a week Before Wedding . Are u gonna cancel the wedding. The halls are rented, invitation are out, everything is set. what would u do?

This question was once posted on this site and I found this topic very intresting. Please share your views and thoughts on this topic.

It depnds on the individual. Personally, I wouldn't go through with the wedding. It will either have to be cancel or reschedule. With a situation like that happening a week before the wedding, causes the trust to be broken. It will be very difficult to commit yourself to someone you don't trust.

Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2005 10:10 pm

I mean thats a hard one...It would really depend on how much I love this person and everything I have on the line. I might prospone the wedding and check in my back yard.....see if I can figure out the reason that this happened...cause to be quite honest..we women don't like to admit it...and its not in every situation...but some women lead men to cheat....cheating for a man does not start with sex...it starts with the outside person listening to the man and then physical....

I guess to cut long story short I will weight all the pros and cons....

President Poster Joined: Aug 04, 2004 Posts: 189

phinnie wrote:

I understand that the American culture is great but damn we have taken it to the extreme. Cheating is not really a big deal once my man can prove that he loves me. i dont care if another woman wants to give it up especially for one night. nowadays we get so pressed by cheating men we leave them at the drop of a dime. but at the end of the day, we are gonna be the ones called whores because we change men cuz they cheat. men are dogs we just need to live with the idea. if ur man cheats, and he's really sorry forgive him its not gona peel the skin off ur body ladies.it gives the woman that he cheated with the upper hand to talk shit to u. Sad

I agreed with some of your comments Phinnie. If you love the person just go on with your life. No need to cut anything off. Because some people just come into another people life to break relationships. After all most people cheat nowaday on their partners.

So, what will be the reason for you cutting off the wedding anyway? After spending your life time with that person. It could be the devil working.... So if you cut it off, then you have allow the devil to get power over you.

While I agreed with some of your comments , I also disagreed with the statement you make against men. Men are Not dog and will never be a dog. How can you say such a thing. How can you accused every men for one person wrong doing?

I know a man may have cheated on you. that will not make you blame every man for that.

Posted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 4:23 am

I agreed with some of your comments Phinnie. If you love the person just go on with your life. No need to cut anything off. Because some people just come into another people life to break relationships. After all most people cheat nowaday on their partners.

So, what will be the reason for you cutting off the wedding anyway? After spending your life time with that person. It could be the devil working.... So if you cut it off, then you have allow the devil to get power over you.

While I agreed with some of your comments , I also disagreed with the statement you make against men. Men are Not dog and will never be a dog. How can you say such a thing. How can you accused every men for one person wrong doing?

I know a man may have cheated on you. that will not make you blame every man for that.[/quote]

It may same that cheating is an everyday occurance now, but alas that does not make it right or acceptable. It is very painful for a woman to discover that her man has cheated on her. I think it would be wise to cancel the wedding. Postponment will only lead to him making more promises that he sure as hell will break. Find another man who may be more discreet in his cheating (there are a lot of professional cheaters around).

I agree with Phinnie that men are dogs. It is true that they don't have the fur and tail, but in actions relating to sex, they are no different. On the issue of love, I can assure you that there's no way you can love another person without that person loving you in return. If he cheated on you (enough for you to find out), then he doesn't love you. Drop him, give a few tears, take a deep breath and move on.

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It is the week before our wedding and I caught you cheating? Embarassed

This is the time to be celebrating and you are jumping another woman bones....what do you think? I will be puzzle...ask myself how many times have he done it without getting caught? Would I want to marry a man who is so insensitive as to screw around with somebody during my time?
YES!! everything will go on as plan, I will be damn not to get my pictures taken in the gown I spend so much money on. When the pastor ask "will you accept this man" I will scream " HELL NO YOU CHEATING BASTARD" let him know how it feels to be humiliated. Then, I will tell the guest that the reception must go on....we will be celebrating me... not getting marry to a CHEATER. Very Happy

Average Poster Joined: Oct 15, 2005 Posts: 93

Ansu wrote:

If your partner cheated on you a week Before Wedding . Are u gonna cancel the wedding. The halls are rented, invitation are out, everything is set. what would u do?

This question was once posted on this site and I found this topic very intresting. Please share your views and thoughts on this topic.

My idealogy of marriage is ultimate trust, commitment, and understanding. In effect, a wedding is a formal celebration of trust, commitment, and understanding in a relationship. In this case, it is an ultimate indication of a broken trust and commitment, and clearly illuminating regarding what path the relationship is bond to follow. What's a relationship without trust or commitment Crying or Very sad

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I will surely cancel the wedding and not subject myself to a miserable life with a cheating partner. Once a cheater will always be a cheater, and cheating a week before the wedding is absolutely gross. Twisted Evil

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More inportantly than him cheating the night before the wedding is the reason behind the "cheating".

If he made a mistake....would he make that same mistake again?

Why would he seek the love of another woman before marring the woman he loves?

Those are questions I would ask myself before calling off the wedding. I would want to know for a surety the answers to the questions and could I live with those answers for the rest of my life. Because you know ladies....once you forgive him you can NOT "throw it in is face" during any arguements.

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There are many nice and beautiful ladies around. damn let the person go..

Forums Moderator Joined: May 18, 2005 Posts: 1023

phinnie wrote:

I understand that the American culture is great but damn we have taken it to the extreme. Cheating is not really a big deal once my man can prove that he loves me. i dont care if another woman wants to give it up especially for one night. nowadays we get so pressed by cheating men we leave them at the drop of a dime. but at the end of the day, we are gonna be the ones called whores because we change men cuz they cheat. men are dogs we just need to live with the idea. if ur man cheats, and he's really sorry forgive him its not gona peel the skin off ur body ladies.it gives the woman that he cheated with the upper hand to talk shit to u. Sad

I believe one of the ways a man proves he loves a woman is by being faithful; I think that is the ultimate proof of his love.

It's amazing that you would stay with a man for the sake of your reputation and put that above your health, peace of mind, emotional well being and your sanity!

His being unfaithful is not about the "other" woman! It is about his commitment to me.

And do you know the scores of women that are in relationships like that and the men they "forgive" treats them like "doormats"?

What kind of respect does he have for me? And my feelings? And my body?

When a man cheats on me; that tells me there is something that I lack to satisfy you! Because I believe that I am all that you will need. Cool

So when you "step out" on me, don't worry about coming back......I won't be there!