would you date an older/younger person

Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 9:10 am

In this modern world it seems, certain taboos have been broken.

There was a time when the man was older than a woman, and that
was how it was where married couples and relationships where concerned.

These days we see a lot of older woman/younger guy, Older man/
much younger woman relationships.

What is the maximum number of years you would have between you
and your intended?
Would you date or marry an older person or someone much younger than you?

SisiPancake

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Sisi;
You know in the past, I would never give a younger man the time of day, but recently I've been attracting the attention of lot of younger men; I'm talking 4-8 yrs difference in our ages.
They are very amorous in their intentions, but for me one of the drawbacks: I don't think we are at the same place. I'm looking towards marriage, for him; maybe it's just another relationship.
Another thing: I have a child already, at the most, I may have one more; but some of these young men are looking for two or three.
When I talk to these young men, for one they don't think I am my age, looks plays into the equation, attitude etc., but all of them are looking for maturity, women who know what they want, women who are confident in themselves and not afraid to go after what they want.
Would I date a younger man? Yeah......If he possesses the qualities I'm looking for .....why not?
P.S. Celebrate being single again.........use the time to rejuvinate your mind, body and soul! It's wonderful!

Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 6:56 am

Rina, there was a time when I would not even want to hear older woman and a younger man.
In 1999 I was forced to change my tune lol.
He was 81/2 yrs younger than me. As much as I loved this guy,
I always had it in the back of my mind that, he would be wanting children.

He still is not married and still has no children, I wonder why?
I have to say he still makes a point of calling me on the phone every now and again comes to visit me.

You live only once, and we only get one chance at life..this is not a dress
rehearsal. All I know is, today counts..My happiness is important.

New Poster Joined: Sep 06, 2006 Posts: 18

This is very true women now are dating younger guys.The guys now are only after the money especially the ones who are back home.I am a liberian man i know for the fact it is all the money thing.I had a pretty friend who was on hi5 in her forty,she left because all the young guys wanted her,and was asking her for money i mean she is fine she just don't look her age.Money is the key now to all of this young and old relationship it is not love trust me it has always been like that when i was a child back home.The old men with the godpa thing you all know that,and godma stories.Now young men are doing it so good.

Posted: Wed Oct 18, 2006 9:39 pm

Troubleman... we did not date, we were in a relationship, living together.

And NO I did not spend my money on him.

I was always aware that it could only go so far.

We are no longer together that was way back in 2000

If it works for 2 people fine. Not everyone is out for getting money or

material things. Look at regular couples who date!!!

It is all about the persons heart and motives.

Average Poster Joined: Nov 29, 2004 Posts: 78

if someone else wants to do that it's fine but I will NEVER date a younger guy. If they are even a SECOND younger than me Im immediately not interested in a relationship.

Posted: Thu Oct 19, 2006 7:45 pm

LOL Michele you are strict Very Happy

You go girllllllllllll. Wink

The whole point is at least YOU know what you want.
Many people have no idea about what they want and
just accept whoever comes along.

SisiPancake

Forums Moderator Joined: May 18, 2005 Posts: 1023

troubleman43 wrote:

This is very true women now are dating younger guys.The guys now are only after the money especially the ones who are back home.I am a liberian man i know for the fact it is all the money thing.I had a pretty friend who was on hi5 in her forty,she left because all the young guys wanted her,and was asking her for money i mean she is fine she just don't look her age.Money is the key now to all of this young and old relationship it is not love trust me it has always been like that when i was a child back home.The old men with the godpa thing you all know that,and godma stories.Now young men are doing it so good.

The younger men that I have met are quite well off; and those that were not "rich"; were not looking for my money. I'm very old fashioned when it comes to things like that; you have to be the man. Opening the door, paying for dinner and dates, etc. I'm not saying I can't buy a guy gifts, I just don't believe in supporting him!

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As for dating an older man, that was something I didn't want; I'm talking anywhere from 10-20 yrs and older; yes "godpa" status.
But recently it seems I may entertain the notion; there are standards: he has to be in good shape, establised - that means home, a career, a car, not married, etc.
Sounds materialistic? Not really. If a man is in his mid to late fifties or older, why would he not have all the things I listed earlier? In fact those are the exact things that would attract me to him, his intelligence, maturity, witty humor, ease with himself, charm, the security he could offer me. I'm just being honest.

President Poster Joined: Aug 04, 2004 Posts: 189

Rinabear, i'm trying to work out whether i'm offended by your statement or not! lol Laughing

Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2006 1:10 am

Player here is the deal..

Every woman wants to be secure. I am not saying the man has to be wealthy and all that. But there has to be a degree of security.

I don't mind if the guy is 10 years my senior o. I have no problems with that. As long the man makes me soul calm what else???
Rolling Eyes

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I love older women. They are the best.

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Thank you, DSP. We love you too! Mr. Green

President Poster Joined: Mar 04, 2006 Posts: 145

Rinabear07 wrote:

Thank you, DSP. We love you too! Mr. Green

***faints***

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ROFLOL