Hair Extentions

New Poster Joined: Jan 28, 2007 Posts: 12

We have been told that when most girls leave the orphanage in Liberia to come to America they want hair extentions. We have been told by some that it is wrong. Any thoughts Question

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I think little girls and hair extensions are two phrases that should not be in the same sentence. I know alot of people think it "fashion forward" to add 10 lbs of "fake" hair to a little head, but I don't.

It's hard enough assimilating to a new culture, and way of learning, without worring about a sore neck or something else! Laughing

When I came to the US, my daughters were 7 & 8. I braided their hair (cornrows without extensions) up to the 9th grade! Why?

1. I think it is a little too much.

2. It was important to me for them to be little girls; extensions are too "grown"!

3. Them focusing on their school work was # 1. As long as they were clean and well groomed, nothing else mattered.

Hope this helps.

Posted: Thu Feb 01, 2007 12:12 am

Okay I know extensions can look pretty, but there are serious
draw backs. I have seen a few documentaries about hair extensions,
weave ons, hair coloring etc.

First as Rina pointed out, that fake hair does feel weighty, only once
have I had extensions. Normally they should have stayed in at least
2 - 3 months but my scalp itched, and the weight was unbearable.

Washing braids does not give a 100% clean head of hair. Dirt gets
trapped in between the braids and natural hair and when you take
the braids out, it is a horrible thing to look at.

Nothing worse than the hair growing and you can see the roots,
the extensions becoming undone and all sorts.

Hair specialists say that, because fake/real hair extentions are
not part of us, the body fights to reject the extensions.
Some people are even allergic to them.
Don't forget these extensions are made from chemicals.

A simple shampoo and conditioner with gentle hair cream
like TCB, plait the hair and that is all you need.
It was the way our mother's did it prior to all this fake fake
stuff.

Let your Girls be confident and love their natural hair.

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Also sometimes its done so tightly, the hair at the hairline breaks off; leaving a new unflattering hairline, that bangs won't cover!

New Poster Joined: Jan 28, 2007 Posts: 12

Thanks for the input. That is more or less what we had heard from other people. The hard part is that our very first parenting experience with our daughter will be to tell her no, she can't get extentions...

Posted: Thu Feb 01, 2007 3:01 pm

Threeliberians, don't think it will be hard. There are many
instances in life where we have to tell our children no!!
I had to tell my daughters No when they wanted extensions.
I repeated myself for many years till they got into their
teens and I allowed them. 28 years later I am still saying
no to certain requests.

What you need to realise is the advice you give your daughter
is the same as if she wanted a perm, or wanted to bleach
her skin, or go for liposuction. You simply say, I know they
look pretty but you real hair is the most beautiful

Then get her to look at natural black women like Maya Angelou.
Let her see that Maya is a proud lady who has kept her natural
hair and done well in life.

I will be back with more... Razz

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You know I raised my daughters the way my mom raised my siblings and I. I thank God to this day that they are productive members of society.

BE the parent! Don't allow your kids to rule you. Forget about where they have come from and what they have been through, trust me children are tougher than you think!

Your kids already appreciate what you are doing for them, don't feel by disciplining them you're hurting them.

Set the rules and both you and your wife abide by them. Always be united in your decisions, so they won't play your wife against you and vice versa.

Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 3:48 pm

Do you know that even though children might grumble
about not getting their way, they actually deep down
appreciate that they have loving parents, who guide
them through life.

Believe me, mine grumbled A LOT, but today they do
come back and say "Mum thankyou, I am so glad you
brought us up the way you did". They have seen how
some of their friends who have alcoholic parents, have
turned out.
I am not condeming anybody, but when children have
1 or 2 parents who are with their correct faculties, then
a child has nothing but a well rounded foundation and
solid start in life.
Life does not come with book of fail proof instructions,
but trust me, the love you have for your children will
be you guiding hand.

Hope this posts lol
Have a nice day everyone, going to do some shopping.
Back later.

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What did you get me? Very Happy

Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 12:14 am

Rina after a hard days work Razz

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New Poster Joined: Jan 28, 2007 Posts: 12

Hey we tried to reply the other day but something was wrong with the site. We just wanted to thank you for you input. What you all said was pretty much what we were thinking. We agree with you that you have to be united as a couple in you decisions and your discipline. We have adopted two other children but we got them when they were infants so they just grew up as part of the family. We are thinking it will be a little different with children aged from 9 - 13. Also the children at the orphanage kinda have been looking at hair extentions as a "rite of passage" for when they are leaving so that's why we thought we would get some outside input. Thanks once again.

Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 10:33 pm

ThreeLiberians,
Yeah everyone has been having problems with the site.
It should be resolved soon. Admin is on to it.
Thank God for people like you who have so much love
to give. You will get there, one day at a time. Very Happy

Hope this posts Shocked

Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 10:34 pm

ThreeLiberians,
Yeah everyone has been having problems with the site.
It should be resolved soon. Admin is on to it.
Thank God for people like you who have so much love
to give. You will get there, one day at a time. Very Happy

Hope this posts Shocked

New Poster Joined: Jan 28, 2007 Posts: 12

Thanks! We like to share God's love. Even to our "children" Laughing

who don't know how good they have it. (Rinabear07) Shocked

Forums Moderator Joined: May 18, 2005 Posts: 1023

Technically.............since I haven't experienced anything yet.......I really can't say I know how good I "have" it.

But I'll work with you on this one.................put a check in the mail to make up for past years, and we'll call it even! Laughing