(For Woman Only). Should I let him marry another woman?

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We are a small family.... very small and since long-time back when I was only 13 years old I dreamt of having so many kids when I marry!!!!

But fate was laughing at me... years passed and I got married and waited to get pregnant as others do sometimes right after their honeymoon. Then a year passed I got panic... a year and a half this where I went to the doctor. And since then I am running after doctors. Then finally I decided to stop not because I am loosing hope but I am thinking that pleasure is not only on having kids.

Here we come to my big concern ... here is the other part of me MY HUSBAND. A wonderful man that loves me so much. We are having a nearly perfect life and love. He always tells me I want kids from you and me only.

I am so confused and concerned I decided to share this problem with my sisters here at this board. Because other Liberian website only talk most on politics these days.

Back to point… Do I leave him to have another life and have kids? I am so afraid???? But please let me hear your opinion if someone in my place what would she do????

Virgin Poster Joined: Feb 15, 2005 Posts: 4

Hi Bendu

My heart feels for you. I am sure that what you are going through is very hard and it is causing you a lot of pain and agony. Nonetheless, you seem to have a very supportive and understanding husband.

You even said that he told you that he only wants kids as long as you are their mother. I think you should be thankful To God beacuse he blessed you with such a kind and loving husband. Ask yourself one question, would you be able to leave him? Don't ask him something that might be very hard for you to handle. Did he went for check up? Perhaps, the problem is from him and not from you. Why don't you adopt? I know in Islam it is not recommended, but think of the love that you will be giving to a an orphan. I really don't think you should sacrifice your love for your husband and your happy life with im for the sake of children. Children are not a must in a couple's life.

For sure they bring joy, but they are not a must. I know many couples who have been togethr for ages and they are happy alone. You might think that I am very Western minded, and it might be true. However, love and happiness have no boundries. Love has the same meaning in all countries, and pain has the same meaning in all countries as well. Think twice before giving up your husband and making the biggest mistake of your life.

Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 11:32 pm

It is God that gives children, they are gifts. My Bible tells me that "There shall be no barren in the land". It means that If I a am child of God, I cannot be considered barren. I know of many women who have been categorised this way b'cuz of one reason or the other, they are not able to conceive. Do you know that stress can cause you not to conceive??? Have tried checking to see when you are most fertile??? Above all, have considered the first and foremost solution, which is praying and fasting and talking to your God. My Jesus answers all prayers, Jeremiah 33:3 he said, Call on me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know". i don't know your religion and I don't play one, but the one thing that I am sure of is that JESUS never fails.

I know of a lady that was married for 7years and was told by a pastor that she has no womb. As I am telling you this story, we just went to the naming ceremony of her 3rd child. My God is able and if he has done it for me, He will surely do it for you. I will keep you in Prayer.

Do not allow your husband to marry another woman, you can have children. It is never too later for the Lord to come to your rescue. Relax and Praise God and start thanking him for all the children you are going to bear. Your dreams will surely come to past.

Posted: Tue Sep 13, 2005 6:46 pm

Seems to me that you are worrying about having children for nothing. Your husband doesn't appear to be in a rush for kids so why are you stressing yourself out. Do you really want to leave your husband and have him take on another wife? How do you know that this other woman is going to bear him a child? Remember you took your marriage vows for better or for worse and till death do you part. So relax and know that God is in control.

Forums Moderator Joined: May 18, 2005 Posts: 1023

Bendu,
In deed you would be crazy to leave your husband to marry someone else. If he loves you to understand what is going on I think you should start thanking God for a husband like that. Sometimes when you try too hard it just doesn't happen. Why don't you relax and enjoy your marriage to a wonderful man, and when you're not even thinking about having children, that's when it will happen. It is not the children that define the marriage you have or the woman you are. Always remember that. God bless.

Posted: Thu Nov 10, 2005 1:01 pm

Bendu,

Your question was, "Should I let him marry another woman?"-The devil is a liar!

I don't know if you have every read the stories about Zechariah and his wife Elizabeth, Mary and Joseph (1st Chapter of Luke 5-25) and Abraham, Sarah, and Hagar in the book of Genesis. But if you haven't read it, please do so because that will answer your questions better than any of us can. Both Elizabeth and Sarah gave birth to their sons (John the Baptist and Isaac) in their old age, that God promised them after so many years of trying other methods. You already have your promise, but you have to pray, fast, believe that you have it, and recieve it. God is a powerful God and NOTHING is too hard for him.

LUKE 11:9-10 SAYS:
And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; Seek, and ye shall find; Knock and it shall be opened unto you.
For every one that asketh recieveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened

Sister, all you have to do is ask the Lord and you shall recieve it. God hear the cries of his children and he always answer. I will be praying for and with you that the Lord grant you the desires of your heart. I also look forward to a future testimony post from you about the birth of your child. GIRL CLAIM IT AND RECIEVE IT NOW IN JESUS NAME. AMEN!

Some times when we want something really bad, our patience is very limited. Just continue to pray, be still and know that God is God, and let him work on his time. When he is creating something outstanding, he can't be rush. Please stop listening to these doctors. They don't know better either. I refuse for another human being to tell me that I can't do/have something, when God says that I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthen me (Philippians 4:13).

Mark 11:24

Therefore I say to you, all things whatever you ask for in
prayer, believe that you shall receive, and they shall come to
you.

Very Happy

Stay encourage and like I mention earlier, I will be reading for a testimony and a pic of the baby Very Happy

. God Bless You

Guest Poster Joined: May 17, 2006 Posts: 1

God's time is truly the best. With all the consentration on kids, it's probably not gonna happen until you least expect it . You should also get your husband to see a doctor and check his sperm count. whatever it is could be helped (medically speaking). God has given you a loving and understanding husband. Leaving him should not be an option because you might find someone to have kids with but you can never find another him ( your husband). Enjoy your loving relationship and wait for God's time.

Posted: Thu Sep 14, 2006 7:48 am

Bendu I feel your Pains.

A womans ultimate desire is to be a mother.

God has his plan for you.

I dont know your age or how long you have been

married. I know a couple who were married 12 years

before they had a baby daughter. She went through

a lot of emotional turmoil. But like your Husband,

her husband refused to marry another even tho he

is a muslim. My point is this.. if it is Allah's will

your womb will be blessed.

Thank God you have a loveing Husband May his

days be long and blessed on this earth.

I will keep you in My Prayers.. ((hugs)))

Sisi Pancake